Thursday, August 5, 2010

Gisele Bundchen Has Opinions

In case you are like me, and you only watch Good Morning America if your kids sleep late or only watch the evening news when you actually have your kids asleep before 10pm, then maybe you didn't hear about Gisele Bundchen's recent statement, given in an interview for Harper's Bazaar UK Magazine, where she states that she believes it should be a world-wide law for women to breastfeed their children for their first 6 months of life. She also questions mothers who give their babies "chemical food" when they are "so little."

And, all I have to say about that is: It is SO SO SOOOOO easy to think that when you've never walked in the shoes of another mom. And when you've only had one kid and one breastfeeding experience.

Oh, one more thing I have to say about that: Being a celebrity carries a lot of privileges as well as a lot of responsibility. She needs to think about what she's saying before she says it. Or, at least follow it up with, "But that's just my opinion."

You can read her follow-up comments on her blog, where she explains that she isn't trying to judge (sure didn't sound that way) and that, as mothers, we are all just trying our best (but I guess trying breastfeeding doesn't count unless we do it for 6 months?) I have to say, I'm disappointed that she didn't just stand up and say, in Portugese or English or whatever, "THIS IS MY OPINION. IT MIGHT NOT BE YOURS BUT I CAN SAY WHAT I WANT TO SAY."

Why is it that we, and by we I mean me and maybe a few other people, feel that by having an opinion that contradicts other people's opinions, that we have to APOLOGIZE for that? Sure, apologize if you call someone a moron, or jerk, or stupid. But, apologizing for someone disagreeing with you? That's .... all too common. And it needs to change.


Texan Mama

18 comments:

stephanie (bad mom) said...

While I appreciated her pro-breastfeeding sentiment (and you're way ahead of me watching GMA or any kind of news; I heard it on NPR by chance), she definitely sounded better-than-thou and quite judgmental which of course wins no friends and influences few.

I agree that people do not need to apologize for their opinions but just own them, and be courteous enough to listen to others'.

Laura @ The Things I Said I'd Never Do said...

She came across as smug and all knowing and that's what bothered me. A law? Really? I would be punished because god forbid I went back to work and had to supplement? Because I don't have millions of dollars to have a full time nanny or the flexibility to bring my kid with me to the office so I can feed him every two hours?

She doesn't have to apologize. It's her opinion. However, I would listen to her opinion more if it was based in reality. I have opinions too. My opinion is that celebrities should keep their child rearing beliefs to themselves.

Let's focus on the parent's who struggle to make ends meet and don't have personal assistants, yet still manage to raise healthy happy kids. Those are the people who's opinions I will take into consideration as I raise my family.

Mommymel said...

Geesh, what a judgemental ... grr, Grandma always told me if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

If that law were passed a while ago, my twins would have starved to death. She doesn't understand that not all women can breastfeed successfully, nor can all children accept breastmilk successfully.

Texan Mama @ Who Put Me In Charge said...

Stephanie, Laura, Mel,
I just have to say that this is a perfect example of how, after having one baby, so many women think that they are the experts on all things related to babies. She is an immature mother with a lot of room to grow. After a few years she, like a lot of us, will look back and say, "MAN I was so dumb and naive back then." But for now, I think the best she can do is put her foot in her mouth. And the best we can do is just sigh and not let our words bother us too much.

But for the record, I agree. I've exclusively breastfed, I've exclusively bottle fed, and I've done everything inbetween. It all depends on the health of the mom and the baby. It's just too easy to make judgements when you've never faced breastfeeding problems.

Aunt Crazy said...

I had not heard about her comments, but I'd really love to shove them down her throat. Her opinion IS hers, and hers alone, and she is obviously very free to share it...but for me, it boils down to supporting each other as moms...period, no matter our choice. She breastfeeds, I didn't, you stay home, I don't, why can't moms just support our own choices and each others choices? I'm all for open discussion, hell even friendly debating, but to be so arrogant as to say that there should be a law forcing breastfeeding, to me, is just over the top. That would be the same as me saying there should be a law that mothers MUST work or you saying there should be a law that couples should have five children...when will people see that what is good for one family is not good for another?

Jennifer said...

While her comment is irritating, my take on is that she's a SUPER MODEL. Who gives a flying you know what about what she thinks? She needs to learn to just smile and look pretty. That's what she's good at.

Swizz said...

What does it say about me that my first thought is...ANOTHER LAW!?! Seriously, why do we need to regulate every part of our lives?

But I guess that's just someone who likes a constitutionally based form of our government (states rights!) balking at the thoughts of someone who probably voted for our current president and still thinks he is doing a good job.

yes...I DID go there. ;o)

Cookie Crums said...

I can honestly say when I heard this... I just laughed. It's an opinion and opinion only. I really didn't see any need to get annoyed/angry over it. And that's just MY opinion. I have breastfeed both my sons and enjoyed it (and the lack of cost! :)) I am of the opinion though...do what you (general you) want with your children and I'll do what I want with mine. And I mean within reason of course, I'm not talking about harming kids... just the day to day choices.

Gigi said...

Don't know who she is, or care. And yes, apparently I live under a rock. She has the right to express her opinion without apology - but in my opinion - that was not a well thought out statement to make.

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J said...

Argh I totally agree with you. What's funny is that I just read another blogger I follow who had a completely opposite response - she said that she agreed with Gisele. I guess it's easier for people whose boobs and babies allowed them to breastfeed to dictate what the rest of us *should* be doing... ha.

Bridgett said...

I don't even know who she is. How funny. I breastfed my babies until they were wrestling me to the ground for it (and still with this #3) but there's no way I'd say something so callous. You're right about the responsibility thing. So many celebrities--whether teachers in front of their classrooms or superstars on stage with a microphone--take advantage but not responsibility.

Bridgett said...

Wait...she's a supermodel? Does she even ingest enough calories to really support an infant healthily? ;^)

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MariaMedia said...

It makes me crazy that this type of story even makes the national news. But in any case - I do agree, don't apologize for your beliefs - but be open and tolerant of others.

Keep up the great work on this blog!

Laura said...

I read that story and making breastfeeding mandatory is the same as making abortion illegal (don't get me wrong, I don't believe in abortion and think it should be illegal), but what I'm getting at is women fight for abortion rights because it is "their body" to do with what they want. And the same goes for breastfeeding.

I tried to breastfeed my first, but she would not suck no matter what the nurses tried, so I switched to bottle feeding (turns out my milk never came in so she wasn't getting anything when she sucked)& with my second I didn't even try to breast feed.

I think breastfeeding is a personal choice each mother has to make.

misssrobin said...

It's always those women with their first young child who tell other women how they should parent.

Once they've been at this a while, they learn that we're all doing our best and women need support, not judgment.

Aunt Crazy said...

I keep coming back to this on your blog and I commented on Gisele's blog and another blog and it's everywhere. What upsets me is the audacity of anyone to say that a mom who does not breastfeed does not love their child enough and is a selfish, uncaring, lazy mother. Seriously??? arrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh